Chillona pero Chingona
I was recently listening to an episode of Latino USA, where host Maria Hinojosa and producer Antonia Cereijido, talked about Latinos and their inclination to cry. The question was asked: do Latinos cry more than other people, on average? I immediately shouted "yes!" and sent the episode to my boyfriend as some sort of validation for my own emotions.
You see, I've always been a crier. Ever since I was a little girl the tiniest little things would set me off. I remember being about 9 years old and sitting on the couch watching my mom play with my brothers. My little brother was barely a toddler and my older brother was almost a teenager, and there they were, the three of them having the time of their lives watching my little brother crawl from one end of the floor to the other. I don't know if I was feeling jealous, left out, or just needed attention but I started bawling. When my mom asked me what was wrong I replied "no one in this house loves me"--okay, I'll admit, I've also always been a bit dramatic--despite that my emotions were genuine.
As an adult I have become extremely aware of when and why I cry. I question my mental and emotional health constantly. Am I depressed? I don't think so, I honestly think I just cry a lot. Sometimes I hate myself for it. It can be exhausting. When I was 18 I had my first steady boyfriend and I remember constantly crying about everything, sometimes I didn't even know why! Ugh, poor guy I'm surprised he tolerated me that long. I know I was sick of myself.
Now I am 30 and I still cry over the silliest things. The other day I was walking the dog after a bad day at work and he was on his worst behavior during our walk. I was so frustrated I just started crying ( I should mention there is some history behind our dog and his behavior that I will go into in a later post) and when my boyfriend made a silly joke I cried even harder.
I know he feels terrible when I cry, but honestly, It is just who I am. I cry when I am mad, sad, happy, inspired, and proud. So, do Latinos cry more than other people, on average? I don't know. But I do know that despite the fact that I am an extreme crybaby, I am still pretty bad ass. Yea, I cry a lot but after having an emotional release I feel capable of getting anything done, from the continued training for our dog to making positive change in my community. Soy chillona pero tambien soy chingona.
What about you? Are you crier? Is this normal?
You see, I've always been a crier. Ever since I was a little girl the tiniest little things would set me off. I remember being about 9 years old and sitting on the couch watching my mom play with my brothers. My little brother was barely a toddler and my older brother was almost a teenager, and there they were, the three of them having the time of their lives watching my little brother crawl from one end of the floor to the other. I don't know if I was feeling jealous, left out, or just needed attention but I started bawling. When my mom asked me what was wrong I replied "no one in this house loves me"--okay, I'll admit, I've also always been a bit dramatic--despite that my emotions were genuine.
As an adult I have become extremely aware of when and why I cry. I question my mental and emotional health constantly. Am I depressed? I don't think so, I honestly think I just cry a lot. Sometimes I hate myself for it. It can be exhausting. When I was 18 I had my first steady boyfriend and I remember constantly crying about everything, sometimes I didn't even know why! Ugh, poor guy I'm surprised he tolerated me that long. I know I was sick of myself.
Now I am 30 and I still cry over the silliest things. The other day I was walking the dog after a bad day at work and he was on his worst behavior during our walk. I was so frustrated I just started crying ( I should mention there is some history behind our dog and his behavior that I will go into in a later post) and when my boyfriend made a silly joke I cried even harder.
I know he feels terrible when I cry, but honestly, It is just who I am. I cry when I am mad, sad, happy, inspired, and proud. So, do Latinos cry more than other people, on average? I don't know. But I do know that despite the fact that I am an extreme crybaby, I am still pretty bad ass. Yea, I cry a lot but after having an emotional release I feel capable of getting anything done, from the continued training for our dog to making positive change in my community. Soy chillona pero tambien soy chingona.
What about you? Are you crier? Is this normal?
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